This week’s theme for the #Last90Days is gratitude. So here’s the thing ~ I wanted to take a different spin on this. There are many things that can get in the way of being grateful ~ anger, bitterness, sadness ~ to name a few. I want to focus my attention to the notion of FORGIVENESS. Clients I see at Healing Path Counselling Services often struggle with all the above emotions because they have been wronged. And in being wronged ~ this often clouds their day to day experiences.
So, in order to learn how to forgive, I strongly feel one must learn what forgiveness is NOT. Here are some things that forgiving someone doesn’t mean:
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you are excusing the other person’s actions.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you need to tell the person that he or she is forgiven.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have any more feelings about the situation.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean there is nothing further to work out in the relationship or that everything is okay now.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you should forget the incident ever happened.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to continue to include the person in your life.
Most importantly, forgiveness isn’t something you do for the other person .
By forgiving, you are accepting the reality of what happened and finding a way to live in a state of resolution with it. This can be a gradual process—and it doesn’t necessarily have to include the person you are forgiving.
Forgiveness isn’t something you do for the person who wronged you ~ it’s something you do for YOURSELF.
I would love to help you in your own personal development journey. Please connect with me at Healing Path Counselling Services.
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