At Healing Path Counselling Services, people are often looking for assistance in “letting go of the past” especially if there were negative experiences. Now if there was trauma, this article does not address the complexities that often follow a traumatic experience, however, for those situations (ie. toxic friendship; loss of a job) the following may assist.
Don’t let negative thoughts cloud your mind
Allow yourself to express your emotions, but don’t dwell on them. Negative thinking is unproductive as it distracts you from the positives in life and makes it harder to let go of the past. Negative thoughts plague your mind with self-sabotaging thoughts, denying you your right to live a happy life.
When a negative thought crosses your mind, try to look at the evidence that either supports or goes against that negative belief. In most cases, you will not find a lot of evidence that supports the negativity. This, in turn, makes it easier to look at the positives you have gained from an experience.
Learn from your experience
Take away the positives from past experiences. By learning from experience, you learn more about yourself and what makes you happy. Perhaps you discovered you don’t like certain activities anymore, or you learned who your true friends were. Now you know not to participate in that activity, or to spend time with your true friends, leaving your toxic friends behind. Use these experiences to your advantage so you can learn more about what makes you happy in life.
Expand your view of yourself
You’ve confronted your past and moved on, so now is the time to avert attention to yourself. This is the time to get to know yourself better, to learn what makes you happy. Go out and take part in new activities, don’t be afraid to take risks and learn what experiences you are passionate about. Understanding who you are and what you want out of life will make you happier in the long run.
If letting go of the past is something that you struggle with please reach out to Healing Path Counselling Services to explore if Cognitive Behavioural Therapy could help.
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