More than being smart or having a lot of money or resources, what separates the truly successful individuals from the rest is the fact that they NEVER GAVE UP. They never give up no matter how they started or how many times they have failed in the past.
Never giving up sounds so cliché, but the repetition is justified because it’s the only choice. This week’s #Last90Days challenge builds on this theme of not quitting! Here are some tips below:
1. Pause but don’t quit
Taking a step back gives you a whole new perspective on things. It allows you to gather strength and wisdom for the next steps. Taking a breather is a strategy many neglect to use.
If you are a parent think to those days with your little ones. If you’re not a parent think back to when you were younger. Things didn’t always go your way. During these moments, we taught our children or were being taught that it’s ok to pause. It’s ok to shout or cry. It’s ok to rest for a while and think.
But this didn’t mean you stopped trying. You did what you needed to do to regain your composure and you tried again.
2. Ask the hard questions of yourself and everyone around you
People quit more often than they have to because they fail to be honest with themselves and everyone around them. You need to self reflect and ask the hard questions about who you are, what you want and how you feel?
Do you really like X,Y,Z that you have right now? Or do you pretend you like it because of what everyone around you expects? If you don’t like where you are in this moment then it’s no wonder you may find yourself tired and unmotivated and wanting to give up most of the time.
In the same token, you need to be honest with yourself if you fail. You need to understand your mistakes and try your best to develop solutions. It is hard to move forward if you can’t come to an understanding of your strengths AND weaknesses.
3. Choose to be Positive
I am a huge proponent of positivity, positive self-talk, and an outward positive attitude. Optimism is a wealth magnet.
It doesn’t mean you have to be blindly happy all the time. It just means you choose to focus your energy on the good things, you focus your efforts on what you have to be grateful for – even if you are surrounded by negativity. The moment you let negativity in, quitting will seem to be the best option. Do NOT allow that.
4. Surround yourself with resilient and positive people
Who are your mentors? Who are those people that you look up-to as your role models? Who do you aspire to be like? Do not expect to master not giving up if you hang out with quitters all the time.
If you spend your time with people who are masters of the not giving up attitude, you are most likely to learn the art from them. Look for mentors who have already succeeded. Get to know their stories. You might be surprised on how many times they have failed. Start listening to Podcasts, read books just get connected with the influencers! Spending time with resilient people makes you adopt their habits.
5. Remain motivated and excited
This needs to be daily. Building on the above statement – It is important to read, listen and watch motivational material. Feed your spirit with stuff that inspires you. Surround yourself with anything that reminds you of why you have to keep trying.
There are plenty of free motivational materials. However, no matter how good these influencers are, it won’t work unless you allow it. You have to be your greatest motivator – figure out what moves you and resonates deep within.
6. Just don’t give up
Just don’t give up. It’s as simple and complicated as that. Remove quitting from your vocabulary. Don’t make quitting an option.
Every time you fail in doing something, remember that YOU are not the failure. Your actions failed and now you need to devise an alternate plan. Be objective, examine why it didn’t work and find a way to make it better. As long as your heart is beating, there is always a chance to try one more time.