Changing Limiting Beliefs by Sabrina Martelli

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer

Most of the time we are our greatest enemy. From childhood on, we are literally scripted like a program by things that were said to us by our parents, other close relatives, teachers, friends, and what we see on media.  Experiences that happen to us are also stored in our memory; our brain is making conclusions about what we can do and more importantly, what we can’t or shouldn’t.

This way of experiencing reality results in a set of rules that become our belief structure or, what we term in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, our “schemas”.  This, in turn, becomes our mirror of “reality” and as an important part of our own identity. This reality, however, isn’t a fixed thing.  It is an image, a perspective, we have in our minds. These beliefs can be supporting for us, or limiting.  It is these limiting beliefs that clients seek support for at Healing Path Counselling Services.

It is very important to realize, that these beliefs are not reality. Reality is a relative construct. Beliefs are thoughts in our head that have formed an image of the world, that we work with. But it is not reality.

You may not even be aware of such self-limiting beliefs, but certainly they are there inside. Even if you made a lot of personal progress in working on yourself, there are a lot of areas where limiting beliefs are holding you back.  For instance the belief that “the earth is flat” was something that many people were certain about. Likewise, the notion that “the earth is the center of the universe” was a belief that was “reality” until there came Galileo in 1610.

Let’s look at some areas where clients limiting beliefs are common such as, “I am not intelligent or smart enough;” or “I am a pure logical type and can’t show my emotions;” or “I am not good with people;” or “I am too old;” or “I’m not good enough.”

Even if you can’t recognize yourself in these beliefs, there may be other rules, that you are holding true for yourself and not contributing to supporting your true nature.

At Healing Path Counselling Services, we work towards identifying such rules that tend to work deep in our subconscious mind because these limiting beliefs are constantly influencing and distorting our possibilities. If you can become aware of these and identify them, recognize the triggers, and establish the facts, you will be able to change them. And by that, change your reality for the better.

It is important to understand that, if we live by limiting beliefs formed in the past, conscious or subconscious, we are doomed to repeat the results of the past over and over.  Thereby reaffirming these maladaptive schemas.  The import thing is to have empowering beliefs so that we are supporting ourselves instead of standing in our own way.

If you would like to explore, change and heal from your limiting beliefs please reach out at Healing Path Counselling Services.

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