Last week, we identified what bullying can look like and strategies for parents to help their children if they are being bullied. This week, this article highlights strategies that can be used by children with their loved ones’ support. Please understand that the suggestions below are not all-inclusive and may work for some but not others.
Avoid the bully wherever possible. Don’t give him or her a chance to bully you by preventing run-ins between the two of you.
- Think ahead about where you usually run into the bully. Avoid those places.
- Try taking a different route from your home to school and also different routes within the school itself.
Ignore the bully if they say or do something to you. As much as you can, try to ignore the bully’s threats. Pretend you can’t hear them and try to leave the situation immediately and go to a safe place.
- Bullies are always looking for a reaction to their teasing. Pretending that you don’t notice or care (even if you do care on the inside) may stop a bully’s behavior because they are not getting the reaction they expect and want.
Use the buddy system. If you’re trying to avoid being bullied, two people are stronger than one. For example, walk with a friend or a group of friends to school, or hang out with them at recess. In other words, make sure to have friends surrounding you wherever and whenever you think you might run into the bully.
- If you have a buddy, remember to be a buddy. Offer to be there for a friend if you know he or she has bully trouble. Act if you see a friend being bullied; after all, you know how hard it is to be bullied. Tell an adult, stand with your friend being bullied, and tell the bully to stop. Support those you see being hurt with words of kindness
Recognize that you have a right not to be bullied. It is not your fault that you are being harassed. You, like everyone else, deserve to feel safe.
Say “no.“ Tell the bully “No! Stop it!” in a loud, assertive voice and then walk or run away if you feel you need to.
- Standing up to the bully, simply by saying “no,” sends a message that you are not afraid and will not accept his or her behavior. Bullies tend to go after kids who don’t stick up for themselves and who they think will take their abuse and do whatever they say.
- There’s always strength in numbers. Kids can stand up for each other by telling a bully to stop teasing or scaring someone else, and then walk away together.
If you are concerned that your child is being impacted by bullying on an emotional level please don’t hesitate to reach out to Healing Path Counselling Services.
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